You said ‘Yes’ to the Bridesmaid Proposal! Now what…?
As soon as your bestie got engaged, you knew this day was coming. It was only a matter of time before a lovely little gift box showed up at your door, asking you to be her bridesmaid. If this is your first time being someone’s bridesmaid, you’re probably now wondering what’s next after the proposal?
There are of course no hard and fast rules on what you should do after receiving a bridesmaid proposal. That being said, there are a few things you probably should do.
Think Carefully Before You Say Yes to the Bridesmaid Proposal
Once you’ve received a bridesmaid proposal, the first thing you’ll likely want to do, is say yes. It’s your best mate, of course you want to be there on her big day! But don’t rush to accept without consideration.
Before you call her and accept the proposal, consider all the roles and responsibilities that go along with being a bridesmaid, and think about the commitment you’ll be making. Do you have any other major life events that could coincide with her hen party, bridal shower or the actual wedding?
Avoid being in a situation that requires you to choose between the birth of your nephew (for example), over your best friend’s wedding. If there is any reason you may not be present for some of her events, you need to give her a heads-up whenever you’re able.
Let Her Know How Much It Means to You
Now that you’ve thought everything through, you can then go ahead and agree to be her bridesmaid with enthusiasm and excitement. Call her up and tell her how honoured you are to be her bridesmaid, and how grateful you are for the proposal. You could also send a heartfelt note telling her how excited you are for the big day, and the journey to get there.
If you have any concerns about your bridesmaid duties, now is the time to bring them up. She’s probably knee-deep in wedding planning already. The sooner you let her know your concerns, the easier it will be for her to plan around any potential issues.
Post the Bridesmaid Proposal on Social Media
If your best girl went all out and sent you a bridesmaid gift box filled with goodies, show her some love on social media. Whether she made the gift box herself or bought it, your friend deserves some recognition for a wonderful proposal.
Block Off Time in Your Calendar
Although the bride may not know specific dates for pre-wedding events, she should have a general idea of when the wedding day will be. This will probably be included in your bridesmaid proposal, but if not, find out the wedding date from the bride and mark it off your calendar as soon as possible.
While you can’t completely plan for events that haven’t happened yet, it’s helpful if the bride knows the month in which specific events are likely to happen. For example, if you know that the hen party is in March, you can try to avoid scheduling anything on the weekends during the entire month.
Say Hello to the Other Bridesmaids and Introduce Yourself
There is a good chance you will not know some of the other bridesmaids. So, before any of the festivities commence, why not get their numbers and set up a WhatsApp group together. You’ll be working closely with these girls & boys to plan the bride’s hen party and help with the wedding planning process, so it’ll be good to get to know each other first.
This strategy will also give you an idea of how each bridesmaid will be contributing. If one bridesmaid lives further away, it makes sense to give her tasks that aren’t location-specific.
Get Ready for Unforgettable Moments
Being a bridesmaid is a huge honour and privilege. It’s also a massive commitment of your time and sometimes money.
Still, you wouldn’t dream of being anywhere but by the bride’s side on her wedding day. By planning early and jumping into your role as a bridesmaid, both your wallet and your best friend will be grateful.