How do you pick the perfect big day gang?
Being asked to choose your bridal party can be one of the most difficult things to do. Deciding who to have by your side, and who to leave out in the cold, is a hard pill to swallow. And without care, your decision can upset those close to you. So to help you out, we thought we’d share some helpful tips on how to choose your bridesmaids and groomsmen.
If your friends and family are pressuring you for answers, it can be stressful. But remember that this is your big day, and you’ll choose who you want to be in your bridal party when it’s right for you. Besides, if you haven’t even figured out where the wedding will be yet, or even started thinking about a budget, it’s probably too early to know who will be bridesmaids. Once you ask, you can’t take it back, so think it through.
We know this can be a difficult decision, so we have put together a list of tips to help you figure out who should stand beside you on your big day.
The Dream Bridal Party, How Do I Choose?
How large a bridal party can you afford?
Like most things, the amount of people you choose to have in your bridal party will affect your wedding budget. The more Bridesmaids and Groomsmen you have, the higher the cost. There are the dresses, bouquets, transport, gifts, hair and make etc.
If your budget is a concern of yours, keep it in mind when asking friends and family to be your bridesmaids.
What size is your wedding?
Don’t get us wrong, you can have as many (or as few) bridesmaids and groomsmen as you like. But for smaller weddings, it can look a little odd if you have 5 or 6+ in your bridal party, and only 30 guests. More isn’t always merrier, and if you’re choosing intimacy over grandeur for the wedding, don’t forget that when you choose your bridal party.
Think twice, ask once
If you’re on the fence about asking someone to be in your bridal party, consider how they’d fit in with the rest of your group. If you don’t think they’d mesh with your gang, leave them off the list. The last thing you want at any point in your wedding journey is to be worrying about possible bust-ups in the wedding party. Give yourself at least a month, if you can, to mull over all your options.
Consider Bro’s & Sisters
Even if you’re not that close to your sister or brother, siblings are going to be around well past your 20th anniversary, and chances are, you’ll become closer through the years. If you come from a big family and you can’t possibly include everyone, draw the line at the young ones. Make them a part of the ceremony in some other way.
Choose Trustful Individuals
We all have those friends who we know are responsible, these are the people who should be going top of your list. After all, you’re going to need to rely on them for some big wedding planning tasks, not to mention providing emotional support.
If your best friend isn’t always the most dependable person, it’s perfectly okay to have two best men or two maids of honour. Pick your unpredictable BFF and another friend you can rely on for the big, important duties.