How many bridesmaids, is too many maids?
Deciding how many bridesmaids you should have is not always an easy task. It’s up there with choosing exactly who you should have as your bridesmaids!
Choosing bridesmaids is a little like being captain of a sports team, and trying to decide who should feature in your squad. The pressure can be challenging. But be aware that just because you have numerous friends, and a large family, it doesn’t mean they all have to be by your side on the big day. There are so many other ways that everyone can be involved in.
If you’re currently struggling to decide on how many bridesmaids you should have, try to remember these simple rules.
How to Work Out How Many Bridesmaids You Should Have
1. There is no ‘correct’ number of bridesmaids
Don’t you just love that! When you’re looking for an easy answer, and someone says, ‘there’s no correct answer’. But in this case, it’s true. Your wedding doesn’t require a certain number of bridesmaids. You don’t have to choose an odd, even or round number of ‘maids to be correct. You just have to choose how many bridesmaids feels right for you, and the occasion.
2. Don’t feel pressured to have the same number of bridesmaids as groomsmen
You also don’t need to have a matching number of bridesmaids to groomsmen. The only time anyone might notice that one side has less than the other, is when it’s time for them to walk down the aisle. But your guests are really not going to be paying that much attention to it anyway. They’ll be sitting there fidgeting in anticipation, waiting for you to walk down the aisle!
If you feel like the groups may look uneven in the photos, ask the photographer to work out different setups and poses that’ll make the numbers feel more balanced. That way, it’s not just a straight line of people standing beside one another.
3. Just because someone chose you to be one of their bridesmaids, it doesn’t mean you have to return the favour
There’s no rule that states you have to select your bridesmaids based on who asked you to be a part of their bridal party. You also definitely don’t have to extend the invite to someone just because you stood by their side some years ago. If you’re still close with them, go for it! But if you haven’t spoken in a few years (or more) it’s going to be a little weird rekindling your friendship in the midst of wedding planning.
4. It’s of course OK to not have any bridesmaids, or to have ‘bridesmen’ instead
You don’t have to have any bridesmaids at all. Even without an official ‘bride tribe’ you can still have a banging hen party and invite all your best girls, and boys. Who may even be happier in the long run, seeing as you saved them from having to organise wedding stuff. Or, do you have a guy in your life that you can’t imagine leaving out? By all means, ask him to join your bridal party along with the rest of the ‘maids!