How many bridesmaids, is too many maids?
Deciding how many bridesmaids you should have is not the easiest task. Let alone considering exactly who you should have! Sometimes choosing bridesmaids can feel like your captain of the football team, and you’re trying to decide who are the best players for your squad. The pressure can be challenging. But be aware that just because you have a lot of friends, and a large family, it doesn’t mean that they all have to be by your side on the big day. There are so many other ways that everyone can be involved in.
But if you’re really struggling with how many bridesmaids to have, try and remember these simple rules.
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1. There is no ‘correct’ number of bridesmaids
Don’t you just love that? When you’re looking for an answer, and some says ‘there’s no correct answer’. But in this case, it’s true. Your wedding doesn’t require a certain amount of bridesmaids. You don’t have to choose an odd, even or round number of ‘maids in order to be correct. You just choose how many bridesmaids feels right for you, and the occasion.
2. Don’t feel pressured to have the same number of bridesmaids as groomsmen
You also don’t need to have a matching number of bridesmaids to groomsmen. The only time anyone might notice that one side has less than the other is when it’s time for them to walk down the aisle. And your guests are really not going to be paying that much attention to it anyway, because they are sitting there fidgeting in anticipation, waiting for you to walk down the aisle! If you feel like the groups may look uneven in the photos, ask the photographer to stage different setups and poses. That way it’s not just a straight line of people standing beside one another.
3. Just because someone chose you to be one of their bridesmaids, doesn’t mean you have to return the favour
There’s no rule that says you have to select your bridesmaids based on who asked you to be a part of their bridal party in the past. You also definitely don’t have to extend the invite to someone just because you stood by their side some years ago. If you’re still close with them, go for it! But if you haven’t spoken in a few years (or more) it’s going to be a little weird rekindling your friendship while you’re also in the midst of wedding planning.
4. It’s of course OK to not have any bridesmaids, or to have ‘bridesmen’ instead
You don’t have to have any bridesmaids at all. Even without an official “bride tribe” you can still have a banging hen party and invite all your best girls and boys. Who may even be happier in the long run, seeing as you saved them from having to organise wedding stuff. Or, do you have a guy in your life that you can’t imagine leaving out? By all means, ask him to join your bridal party along with the rest of the ‘maids!