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How Many Bridesmaids Should I Have?

How many bridesmaids, is too many maids?

Deciding how many bridesmaids you should have is not the easiest task. Let alone considering exactly who you should have! Sometimes choosing bridesmaids can feel like your captain of the football team, and you’re trying to decide who are the best players for your squad. The pressure can be challenging. But be aware that just because you have a lot of friends, and a large family, it doesn’t mean that they all have to be by your side on the big day. There are so many other ways that everyone can be involved in.

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Hayley Paige Bridesmaids

But if you’re really struggling with how many bridesmaids to have, try and remember these simple rules.

How to Choose Your Perfect Number for Your Big Day

1. There is no ‘correct’ number of bridesmaids

Don’t you just love that? When you’re looking for an answer, and some says ‘there’s no correct answer’. But in this case, it’s true. Your wedding doesn’t require a certain amount of bridesmaids. You don’t have to choose an odd, even or round number of ‘maids in order to be correct. You just choose how many bridesmaids feels right for you, and the occasion.

2. Don’t feel pressured to have the same number of bridesmaids as groomsmen

You also don’t need to have a matching number of bridesmaids to groomsmen. The only time anyone might notice that one side has less than the other is when it’s time for them to walk down the aisle. And your guests are really not going to be paying that much attention to it anyway, because they are sitting there fidgeting in anticipation, waiting for you to walk down the aisle! If you feel like the groups may look uneven in the photos, ask the photographer to stage different setups and poses. That way it’s not just a straight line of people standing beside one another.

Nairobi (left) & Marseille (right) by Hayley Paige

3. Just because someone chose you to be one of their bridesmaids, doesn’t mean you have to return the favour

There’s no rule that says you have to select your bridesmaids based on who asked you to be a part of their bridal party in the past. You also definitely don’t have to extend the invite to someone just because you stood by their side some years ago. If you’re still close with them, go for it! But if you haven’t spoken in a few years (or more) it’s going to be a little weird rekindling your friendship while you’re also in the midst of wedding planning.

4. It’s of course OK to not have any bridesmaids, or to have ‘bridesmen’ instead

You don’t have to have any bridesmaids at all. Even without an official “bride tribe” you can still have a banging hen party and invite all your best girls and boys. Who may even be happier in the long run, seeing as you saved them from having to organise wedding stuff. Or, do you have a guy in your life that you can’t imagine leaving out? By all means, ask him to join your bridal party along with the rest of the ‘maids!

Show Your Bridesmaids Some Love on Your Big Day

5 Ways to Show Your Bridesmaids Some Love on Your Big Day

Here are some ideas on how to celebrate your bridesmaids on your wedding day

As a bride-to-be, it goes without saying that you love and adore each of your bridesmaids. After all, you’ve asked them to be by your side on one of the most important days of your life. So they must be pretty special to receive such an honour!

A true honour it may be, but your bridesmaids deserve that little bit more. A special something that will make them feel loved and appreciated. They deserve it after all! They haven’t just comforted you during your bridezilla breakdowns leading up to the big day, they’ve been there through thick and thin for years. Teary break-ups and drunken upsets through to endless lockdown quizzes and skype Friday nights – these girls have loved you throughout, so why not show your appreciation for each of your bridesmaids on your wedding day?

Show Your Bridesmaids Some Love on Your Big Day
Photo by James Bold

It doesn’t have to be anything grand, in fact it’s the little things that can make the big difference. Stuck for ideas? Well we thought we’d round up our favourite ways to shower your bridesmaids with your love below. Regarde.

Top Ways to Show Some Love to Your Top Girls

Let Them Pick Their Dresses

All of your bridesmaids want and deserve to feel amazing on your big day. By giving them the gift of choosing their own bridesmaids dress, you’ll be letting them express their own personal style and choose a dress that flatters them best.

Don’t panic though, you don’t need to give up full control of what your bridesmaids are going to wear. All you need to do is set a few parameters for them to work within, get it right and you’ll achieve the modern, cohesive wedding party look you have been dreaming of.

For example, pick an exact bridesmaids colour and ask them to select a dress available in that colour. Or choose a palette, and let them select a dress within that range. Conversely, you could decide on a length and let them do the rest. If your bridesmaids can’t agree on a dress style that is flattering, don’t worry, that’s what the Nabbd girls are here for!

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Bridesmaids Dresses by True Bridesmaid

Give Them Unique Gifts

Bridesmaid gifts are part and parcel of the wedding party experience. While there is nothing wrong with getting them wedding day accessories and other traditional bridesmaid gifts, it also helps to throw in something unique to each of your girls.

For example, why not make your bridesmaids a personal photo album documenting your most special moments together? This heartfelt bridesmaid gift idea is guaranteed to tug at the heartstrings!

See more sweet gifts for your bridesmaids here.

Say a Few Words When You Pop the Champagne

The moment your maid of honour pops the morning bottle of bubbly it’s time to relax, get the tunes on and prepare for the big day! But before you get the party started, gather your bridesmaids around and clink a few glasses in celebration.

This is the ultimate moment to say a few pre-prepared words or feelings off-the-cuff that show your appreciation to these special gals! Doesn’t need to be long, they’ll probably get a bigger shout out during the reception. These words are just for you guys, private thoughts that show you care.

It may be a small gesture, but it reminds them of just how grateful you are to have them by your side. Plus it’s a lovely way to start the day’s proceedings off on a good note.

Show Your Bridesmaids Some Love on Your Big Day
Photo by Gift Habeshaw

Write Them Each a Heartwarming Note

If you’ve ever received a thoughtful, personalised letter before, you know just how much of an impact it can make. Penning a heart-warming note to each of your bridesmaids is the type of gesture each of them is sure to cherish forever.

On top of saying your thanks, be sure to include things that are specific to each and every one of them. Did one of your bridesmaids help you with a particular crisis? Mention it and tell her how thankful you are that she was there.

Make it clear that you appreciate the little things more than they can possibly know. Just get the tissues ready in case they aren’t expecting you to get so sentimental!

Make Your Maid of Honour Feel Extra Special

Whether she’s your sister or best friend since school, your maid of honour is one-of-a-kind. She’s taken on some of the most important roles, from bringing your bridesmaids into order, to planning hen party on lockdown, via Zoom. She is a super-hero and definitely deserves the recognition.

One way to make her shine on your big day is by dressing her in a different bridesmaid dress than the rest of your bridal party. Have your maid of honour wear a floral printed bridesmaid dress for example or a sparkly sequinned bridesmaids dress while the rest of your gang wears a coordinating shade. Or, you could have your maid of honour wear a long style while your other bridesmaids opt for shorter bridesmaids dresses.

You could also make her feel extra special by giving her a personalised necklace or by treating her to a much-needed spa day after all the excitement of the big day. No matter what the gift, make sure that it’s worthy of all that she’s done for you during the wedding preparation.

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